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我曾經在想，如果我是一個主管我會希望我管理的團隊有個怎麼樣的一個工作目標。
I ever thought about that if I am a manager, what aim I want to achieve with a group I manage.

我希望我的團隊可以樂在工作。簡單的說也就是她們都能夠快樂。我目前的想法可能跟現今市場上主流--完全績效式的工作要求所強調的中心思想有些部分差異。當然，我這麼主張並不代表說強調工作快樂就一定要跟不賺錢，低績效劃上等號；而搞的緊張兮兮，每週評定工作績效，如此神經緊繃的職場生態難道就會讓每一個人的工作效率大增？不管怎麼說，一個很簡單的思維，假如工作現實讓你痛苦，或者工作壓力大賠掉了健康，家人友誼等，那真的是本末倒置。因為賺錢不就是你認為賺了錢以後你就會快樂，生活品質更好才去辛苦追求的嗎？那過度的不快樂是不是已經違背了此一原則呢？
『題外話：那些聘請你有錢的大股東老闆當然你能為他們賺更多，這樣他們就更快樂囉….有時候員工的快樂與否他們不是把這些放在關心的重點項目裡』
I hope my working team being happy in their job. Simply to say, I hope they are happy in office. My idea probably has some differences with present mainstream marketing—completely emphasizing achievements evaluation requirements. Of course, my argument doesn’t mean that focusing on working happy is just equal to getting a result of earning no money or low efficiency; on the other hand, so nervous and stressful by every week’s score, in such a working situation, would it the best way to increase the work efficiency? Whatever to say, a simple idea: if the job let you be unhappy, or lose your health because of work stress even make trouble on your family and friendship, it is like putting the cart before the horse. Don’t you think earning money will let you happy and enjoy better life so that you work hard? So, if you are unhappy, does it conflict with this principle? Even you have a lot of money?
* By the way, these bosses and stockholders absolutely hope you can make more money for them, so that they will be happy :) …. Sometimes but not always, employees’ happiness is not an important consideration for these rich managements.*


今天我看開了，我把這個想法延伸到我的日常生活裡。身為一個男人，大多數其實努力一生追求的不外乎A. 成就工作事業上的意義 B. 獲得良好的經濟能力與財富 C. 找一個好對象並跟自己心愛的人結婚 D. 組織一個美滿的家庭，獲得快樂的生活。 但世界總不是那麼完美，人在比較上也會有強弱之分。假如一個人因為過去沒有念明星大學科系以致於後來工作薪水不合乎期望，或者長的矮又禿頭追不到條件理想的老婆而感到不快樂，是不是也犯了本末倒置的錯誤呢？ 我們追求剛講到ABCD幾點 也就是為了獲得一種快樂的滿足，假如追求了半天才發現自己一點都不快樂，或是因為自己在這些方面做的不夠好而太沮喪，那恐怕就失去了原來追求快樂的意義。從這個角度來解讀，或許即使賺不到錢，及使沒有找到好對象組織一個家庭，也應該設法擺脫掉這種自己給自己或是社會觀念給我們的強大壓力所帶來的不快樂。人生真的很短暫。
Today, I understand. I extend this idea to my daily life. Being a man, most have these similar life goals to achieve for a life: A. Achieve career success and meaning. B. Have good economic condition and fortune. C. Look for a nice woman and marry her. D. Have a happy family life. However, the world is not that perfect. If one person didn’t enter in an Ivy League university and can not make so much money he wants or can not look for a perfect woman he likes because of his face or he is bald, does it right that he is unhappy by these reasons? Yes, we seek for A and B and C…. many life goals, it is sure that we want to get satisfaction from achieving these goals. But…I am afraid to say that we lose and forget our original ideal if we find ourselves unhappy or depressed because we can not do it well. From this angle of view to explain, even we are poor, or even we can not find a good wife to compose a family, we should get rid of this unhappy feeling coming from ourselves or the pressure from our society. People’s life actually is really short.


把追求快樂當為中心理念，我想，不是事事過度的曲解，把追求快樂一直掛在嘴邊，避免所有可能不快樂的壓力，面對挑戰時的緊張，繼而放縱生活或者碰到不愉快的事情就馬上逃避。那這就掉入了追求快樂的陷阱。不快樂跟快樂的情感本身就是兩者並存的，而且天天都在我們的生活中上演，互相的拉鋸。為了獲得一個更大的成就以及追求更有價值的事情，有時候痛苦也是很必要且不可避免。主要的觀念還是在於不要因為為了追求快樂而讓自己到頭來以痛苦收場或者因為在競爭的環境裡追求不到你所要的金錢或社會地位而痛苦，那人生就不美滿了。如果真的窮了，也應該想辦法擺脫心靈上的痛苦。
Regarding pursuing happiness as a main idea, I think, is not over stress on happy itself for everything. Say “we should be happy” all day long (*stupid*). It is wrong to avoid all the pressure which will make you unhappy, escape from difficulty just as the reason of being happy for life. It is a trap of happiness and we hope not to drop in. Happy and unhappy, both exist at the same time, happening in our daily life pulling and dragging to each other. To complete a meaningful goal or pursue a valuable issue, sometimes pain is necessary and can not be avoided. I think the main idea is: do not be unhappy in the long run when pursuing your goals or be sad because you fail to get your aim, like not making money or position in highly completed surroundings. That kind of life is not successful. If really fail, think and try to get rid of pain in mind.


要做到這些，我覺得真不容易。當然，我馬上體會到，即使做不到100分，也不要不快樂，是吧？:)
To do these well, I feel it is not easy. Sure, I think about if I can not get 100 score, I don’t need to be unhappy, right? :)